| Despite what some people think, being a stay at | | | | the grandparents to do it, then do something |
| home mom is a lot of work. Children to care for, | | | | cheap together. The point is that you still need to |
| a house to somehow keep clean, maybe even a | | | | have fun as a couple. |
| work at home job or home business. It's not as | | | | Money resentments build as finances get tighter |
| easy as it may appear on the surface. | | | | due to living on a single income. For most families |
| Being a stay at home mom can also sometimes | | | | this is not an easy thing to do. It's not fun having |
| be a strain on a marriage. There are reasons for | | | | to make do, do without, skip vacations and so |
| this, such as money. But resentments can build if | | | | forth because the budget won't allow it. |
| not brought into the light. | | | | Sometimes financial problems are bad enough that |
| One common resentment is simply that one | | | | a reassessment is necessary. Maybe it's time to |
| partner doesn't have to work outside the home. | | | | reconsider your current setup. Maybe being a |
| It is very easy for a husband to get frustrated | | | | 100% stay at home mom isn't working. A night |
| that his wife gets all day with the kids and he has | | | | job could be in order so as to avoid daycare |
| to work all the time. At the same time, the stay | | | | issues, or finding a way to earn from home. But |
| at home wife may get frustrated that she never | | | | you can't let financial stressors get so serious that |
| gets a break from the kids. | | | | they tear you apart. |
| Obviously such issues should be discussed. One of | | | | If you, the stay at home mom, aren't keeping |
| the ways to ease the problem is to make sure | | | | the house as clean as you husband thought you |
| that each partner gets reasonable breaks, both as | | | | would when staying at home, a discussion of the |
| a couple and individually. The husband needs to | | | | matter may be in order. Maybe you do need to |
| realize that watching his own children as his wife | | | | work harder at it, or maybe he needs to |
| gets a break out of the house is not babysitting. | | | | understand how fast children can destroy a clean |
| The wife needs to realize that sometimes her | | | | room. Either way, talk it out. |
| husband needs to do more than go to work and | | | | Being a stay at home mom is a real treat for |
| go home. | | | | many mothers. But it does involve sacrifice and |
| This also means take date nights. This can be | | | | understanding. Don't let the stresses get out of |
| difficult when money is tight, but do try to find a | | | | hand. |
| way. You may be able to trade babysitting or get | | | | |