Create Life Changes With Less Stress

Like fall leaves whose deep green begins toChange can more often be likened to a marathon,
display spectacular kaleidoscopes of color, ourthan a quick sprint. Mike came to me wanting to
lives are constantly in the process of change.make a career shift. He spent a few months
Sometimes we plan change, other times our livesresearching options, while also making a physical
are unexpectedly on a new course. Where isand mental shift for the change that was about
change in your life? Have you been thrown aoccur. After he told his boss he was leaving, part
curve ball? Do you want a change? Maybe youof him wanted to change his mind. This is natural.
are about to enter a new phase of your life? AHe decided to stay with it and stick to his plan. A
new job? A new direction? A new relationship?year after beginning this process, Mike made the
Whatever the change is, transformations bringchange he always dreamed about! Did he think
surprise, excitement, opportunity, and challenge toabout quitting several times? Of course. Change is
our lives. Wherever change is present in your life,hard! But he was prepared for the long journey!
these steps will help handle your fears and finish4) Change Your Belief System
your course!Our own beliefs are one of the biggest hurdles
1) What Do You Want?between us and success. How many times have
Before you embark on this metamorphosis, youyou thought to yourself? I'm not good enough. I
need to know which destination you really want.can't make money. I'm too afraid. I don't think I
Too often we wander aimlessly because wecan do it, etc.... These self beliefs hinder our
haven't figured out where we want to go. Howprogress. Now, write down your ultimate goal for
could you plan a vacation to Hawaii if you didn'tyourself. Then, ask, do I believe I can do this? Do
know you wanted to go there? Close your eyesI have the resources to do it? Am I capable of
for a minute and think about what you want.doing it? What beliefs are limiting me from what I
Where do you want to end up? Shut out thewant to do? What is telling me I can do this? Now
unwanted thoughts, the advice from others, andthat you know where you need to change your
just listen to your heart. What is it telling you?beliefs, you may want to elicit some support to
Take two minutes and write down anything thathelp you.
comes to mind. Hopefully you have an answer5) Find Tools to Help You
now, but if not, that's ok. Sometimes it can takeChanging our lives can be a long and difficult
longer to really figure out what it is we want.voyage made easier by finding tools to assist you.
2) Make Your Plan RealHere are a few ideas. Start a circle of support
Now that you know what you want, see it, writewith group members who also want to make
about it, and talk about it in every sense of thesimilar changes in their life. Find a good book, like
word! Visualize your actions, your environment,Changing for Good, by James Prochaska. Or, you
and your future. Surround yourself with modelsmay discover using a coach is very helpful.
for success through pictures and friends. Then,Now is the time to push fears aside, tell your
write down for yourself exactly what it is thatlimiting beliefs to quiet down, and begin focusing
you want to accomplish. Finally, tell supportiveon your vision of your dream! By using these
individuals about your plans.steps, your transformation will be one filled with
3) Prepare For a Journeyvibrant colors and opportunity.